Been Awhile

Well, it's been over a month since I last posted our bad news.  We were able to keep busy after the news by celebrating our friend's wedding and then 2 weeks later taking a vacation to our favorite spot with our best friends.  We relaxed and didn't think about anything for that week in Destin, it was wonderful.  Last week I decided it was time to start facing the bad news and call the doctor back after he had called wanting to talk.  I have had 2 offers from two wonderful people offering to be surrogate mothers for me.  I was completely taken back when they made those offers, I was so grateful. 

Ben and I made an appointment for last Friday the 2nd to see the doctor.  We sat there for 45 minutes without being seen and no one saying anything about the doctor running late, so we got up and left and headed to work.  My doctor called me immediately to apologize over and over about being so late and that he would meet us whenever we wanted to meet with him.  He works on the weekends a lot since everything with a woman's cycle is so timed, so we decided we would meet him on Sunday morning.  We just wanted to see what his thoughts were on why I didn't get pregnant and talk about the options with my frozen egg. 

It explained the cycle to us and still can't really tell me why I didn't get pregnant.  He said that it may or may not be the quality of my embryos.  Sometimes they have genetic disorders and so they don't form, but they would never know that unless they did a biopsy on the embryo.  He said that it could have also been the lining of my uterus because they messed with it so much during the process. 

I asked him about surrogacy and he doesn't seem to think that I need that because of my age and that there is nothing wrong with my uterus, so as thankful as I am to have those friends offer such a thing, it looks like we don't need that at the moment.

He is positive about the frozen egg and let us know that it is so much more simple for this process than doing a fresh IVF.  We would call him with a date that we want to make the transfer and then they work backyards.  Basically I would be on birth control for about 4 weeks or so to suppress my ovaries and then I would be on estrogen for 2 weeks and then progesterone for one week and then we would transfer it praying that it survives the thawing process.  Who knew you could have a kid from a frozen egg? :)

The cost is significantly less than a fresh cycle as well, but we are going to save for that cost and the cost of my medications and then decide when we are going to do the transfer.  I would like to do it sooner because I am afraid next summer could be worse than this summer and I really don't want to be 8 or 9 months pregnant, but I am not going to be picky.  I will take that little baby whenever I can have it!!!

I ask that you continue to pray for us please.